Of Stone, Bone and Water

Ritual Skills and Ancestral Practices for Grieving

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How do I make medicine of all this grief?

This is a course for those whose hearts are broken open by personal and collective loss and change. For those who are searching to find grief work that is soul-nourishing. For those who want to cultivate supportive presence with themselves in the transformation that grief invites. For those who desire meaningful ways to be in relationship with grief as a sacred practice.

This is a course for people who seek connection with the wider field of relations that life is made of, including their ancestors, to support healing and wisdom. For those who seek to reclaim personal ritual arts and ancient ancestral connections for life-affirming grief expression. For those that want to support their deceased loved ones transition well into a healthy ancestor. For those who know the importance of grieving as salve for their own heart, and for the wider healing needed in our world.


This is a course for those who want their grief to be an offering that supports life.

Your offering is really beautiful, profound and helpful. I so appreciate how you deliver the content, with much grace and clarity and kindness. Your teachings are precise and rigorous and offered in such a soft and safe way.

~ Elsa Rueff-Lyon

Our grief doesn't need healing. Our healing needs our grief.

Our grief is not something that needs to be healed, no more than our love needs to be healed. Rather, grief and love are vital expressions that support the work of healing - personally and collectively. As human creatures, we all have the innate ability to experience and metabolize grief.

What often does need healing however, is how we relate to our grief, how we access it, what we have been taught about it through dominant paradigms, how we show and express it, and how we do so in ways that are life-affirming, healthy and nurturing of connection and relationship.

Grief is relational and a learned skill, yet for many, cultural teachings for healthy grieving have been jeopardized by legacies of oppression, historical disruptions, and dominant cultural narratives.

We can re-learn the skills of healthy grieving through deepening into embodied practices, cultivating ritual skills, and nurturing relationships with our elder ancestors.

In these modern times, many of us have been steeped in dominant narratives informed by capitalist and colonial ways of relating that undermine the soulful and relational transformation grief invites of us. Reclaiming our ability to be in relationship to grief as a sacred practice is vital to personal and collective healing. You can re-learn how to be with grief through ritual and practices in culturally relevant ways that are aligned within your own ancestral life-ways.

In this 9 week online course you will learn somatic practices to support healthy grief expression, become aware of your grieving styles, and explore personal and cultural spheres of influence that have shaped your understanding of grief. You will gain ritual skills and practices to support the movement of grief as an offering. You will enter into connection with your collective elder ancestors for support, and make connection with an ancestral guide who is a culture carrier of the grieving practices of your specific heritage. You will learn cross-cultural practices that support grieving, including considerations for the right of passage that is death, and for healing inter-generational trauma.


What I loved most were the heart-centered rituals and self-regulation strategies. These have become an integral part of my personal self-care "toolkit" and I use them every day. I recommend this course to anyone seeking the time and space to nurture themselves by shining a loving light on their grief. Thank you Shauna for creating a beautiful course.

~ Chelsea Peddle, end-of-life doula

When is the course?

Course starts April 1st, 2021 with the first lesson released, and ends June 2nd with the last live call. Students will have access to the course content for the remainder of the year afterwards.

How is this program structured?

Pre-Recorded Lessons - released Thursdays, April 1st-May 27th.

There are 8 pre-recorded lessons released each week on Thursdays at 6:00pm Pacific time. Each lesson consists of a video teaching, guided practice, reflection questions, and additional resources for deepening your practice and skills.

Live Calls - Wednesdays, 6:00pm Pacific time, April 7th-June 2nd (recorded)

On Wednesdays of each week that a new lesson is released, there will be a 75 minute Live Call via Zoom to engage in experiential practice, ask questions and share with other participants.

Ritual Circle Gathering - Wednesday, 6:00pm Pacific time, May 5th (recorded)

Half way through the course (week 5) is an integration week with no new lesson released. A 90 minute Ritual Circle Gathering will be offered during this week via Zoom, consisting of a guided ritual practice and time for sharing.

Online Community Space

A private online platform (not Facebook) will be available for you to connect with other students, and share additional content and experiences.

What will I receive?

  • Over 6 hours of video/audio lesson content
  • 11.5 hours of live experiential practice, sharing and Q&A via Zoom
  • Guided visioning, reflection exercises and/or ritual practices each week
  • Additional resources for each lesson to explore further if you choose
  • Access to an online community space
  • Access to lesson content for one year

Will the content be relevant to me?

I welcome folks of diverse ancestries, faith-based traditions and lived experiences. This course is a trauma-aware, anti-oppressive, and culturally inclusive framework focused on embodiment for healthy grieving and reclaiming ritual and ancestral connection as sources of support. Students will have the flexibility to explore what strategies work for them personally and opportunity to nurture their own ancestrally and culturally relevant grieving practices.

Is this course the same as a therapeutic grief circle or grief ritual?

No. This is an educational experience based in teachings, skill development, personal spirit connections, ritual learning, and experiential self-inquiry within a community group setting. This course offers therapeutic healing value and opportunities for heart-felt sharing of your experiences with others, however it is not designed as an intimate witnessing circle for personal processing.


Shauna is a gifted and balanced teacher. Her practical, grounded yet deeply intuitive nature allowed everyone in our group to relate to her in their own way, and she held our ritual container with such safety and support. I feel blessed to have her as a leader in this work!


What does this course cover?

Lesson 1 - Foundations of Sacred Grief

  • Somatic strategies for healthy containment and release
  • Cycles of Regulation and Embodiment approach to emotional expression
  • Trauma-aware considerations for grieving and support

Lesson 2 - Personal and Cultural Relationship to Grief

  • Grieving styles and expressions
  • Grief narratives - personal, communal and cultural
  • Disenfranchised grief

Lesson 3 - Ritual Skills for Grieving

  • Ritual for catalyzing and metabolizing grief
  • Partnership with Spirit allies
  • Personal grief rituals for grieving styles

Lesson 4 - Ancestral Connection & Support

  • Foundations for ancestral reclamation
  • Connecting with a culture carrier
  • Altar practice

Integration week - Ritual Circle Gathering

Lesson 5 - Cross Cultural Grieving & Reclaiming Ancestral Practices

  • 8 cross cultural principles for grieving
  • Apprenticing to reclaim ancestral life-ways of mourning
  • Affinity allies that support ritual grieving

Lesson 6 - Gateways into Grief

  • Exploring 8 gateways of formative grief experiences
  • Putting to practice embodiment, ritual and ancestral support
  • Ancestor-informed grief ritual

Lesson 7 - Grieving and the Rite of Passage of Death

  • Ways of approaching the right of passage of death
  • Therapeutic and ritual considerations for the bereaved and the deceased
  • Complicated or traumatic grief

Lesson 8 - Inter-generational Trauma and Healing

  • Working with ancestral blessing and burdens
  • Ritual safety considerations
  • Unresolved ancestral trauma and cultural wounds


The design and content is impressive. I was expecting something good but my expectations were far exceeded. The additional resources you provide is my favorite section, so many good things to go over and peruse. So thank you, I’m grateful you’ve put this course together and I couldn’t speak more highly of it. For myself it is providing healing and re-engagement with the world.

~Alejandro Garcia

Course Accessibility

Learning - this course is a mixture of video lessons (downloadable transcriptions available), audio guided meditations, written content, and downloadable PDF handouts.

Cost - The cost of this 9 week course is $355USD, paid by credit card or debit.

I offer two tiered-pricing options at $310 and $265. All options have payment plans of 3 installments over 3 months (for an additional $5).

Please reflect on your access to financial resources as you discern which tier. For folks coming from current and/or historically marginalized populations, such as queer and trans people, BIPOC, First Nations, and people living with disabilities, please reach out to me if price is a barrier. I would love to chat about what would be supportive for you.

Reach out if you have any questions: [email protected]

10% of course income is donated to Raven Trust raising legal funds for Indigenous people in Canada to defend their land and culture.


Your Instructor

Shauna Janz, MA
Shauna Janz, MA

Shauna Janz (she/her) is dedicated to tending belonging in our world - within ourselves, with each other, and with our other-than-human relations. She creates space for reaching into the rough and beautiful places that are a catalyst for transformation and healing, personally and collectively, through grief, trauma, ritual and ancestral healing work. Her offerings are trauma-informed, somatic-based and anchored in the resiliency of the human spirit, and animist and decolonizing values.

Shauna supports individuals, families, communities and organizations, and has been designing and delivering trauma-informed programs since 2008. Audiences have included non-profit organizations, local and provincial government, First Nation communities, post-secondary education institutions, school district counseling teams, rural communities and international summits.

Alongside her private practice and online school of Sacred Grief, Shauna is a trainer and mentor with BC Bereavement Helpline supporting traumatic bereavement by homicide, suicide and drug-related death. In the past, she has been a teacher and mentor with Ancestral Medicine, leading multi-day healing rituals; an Executive Director with Learning Through Loss serving youth and adults with grief education and support; the founder of the Victoria Holistic Death Care Gatherings uplifting grassroots perspectives, and a co-visionary for the annual Deathly Matters community conference. She is a lover of inspiration and creativity, and can be found dancing, playing music, and walking in the wilds of nature and mystical communion. Her ancestors are from the lands of Scot Celtic, northern Germanic and Nordic cultures.

Frequently Asked Questions

When does the course start and finish?
The course starts April 1st with the first lesson released, and ends June 2nd with the last Live Call.
How long do I have access to the course?
You will have unlimited access to this course for one year - across any and all devices you own.
Are refunds available if I am not happy with the course?
If you are not happy with the course, I encourage you to first reach out to me ([email protected]). If I can somehow support you in a way that would change your experience to a more beneficial one, I would like the opportunity to do that. A full refund is available within the first two weeks of the course. Thereafter, no refunds are issued.
Are there pre-requisites to enroll in this course?
Prior experience with personal healing work, spiritual practice and basic ritual is required. Experienced in ancestral healing is also beneficial but not necessary. The ritual work and ancestral connection is rooted in the understanding that you already have relationship with supportive and compassionate powers (such as spirit allies, elementals, nature spirits, animal guides, angels, divine essence, deities, etc), and basic energetic hygiene and boundary practices. If this is new for you, I invite you to reach out and we can work together before you begin the course.
Is this course helpful if I am experiencing acute grief or PTSD?
If you are someone who is currently in acute grief from a recent loss, or someone who lives with PTSD or other mental health experiences, it is important you also have other supports outside of this online course, and some foundational strategies for self-soothing and regulation that work for you. This course is grounded in trauma-aware practices, and explores some somatic tools for grounding and regulation. However, this course is not a substitute for professional individualized therapeutic services. I do offer 1:1 support with sliding scale options if you would like to explore this as an option. Please visit shaunajanz.com.
What if I can't attend the weekly Live Calls?
The weekly live calls will be recorded for audio and video playback. It is not expected that you will be able to make the call each week, however it is highly encouraged that you do if you can.

This course is closed for enrollment.